| Asking someone out that you have had your
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| | - Drop a hint. Ask about a subject and
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| eye on can be nerve racking. What do you
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| | drop a hint. Say something like, "What do
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| say? How do you say it? Dating service
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| | you like to do on the weekends?" As she
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| It's Just Lunch provides tips for asking
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| | responds, look for something you like to
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| someone out on a date.
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| | do too. If she says she loves to hike,
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| What to Say
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| | respond with, "We should go hiking
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| First, relax. Try not to view it as a
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| | together sometime," then move on in the
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| date, look at asking her out as an
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| | conversation and ask about her favorite
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| invitation instead. Better still - take
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| | hiking spots. You've just dropped a big
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| the pressure off by not using the "D"
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| | hint, so let it sink in for a while.
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| word altogether. Don't ask for a date and
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| | Listen carefully to her response and
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| don't call it a date. It starts to get
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| | gauge her enthusiasm. If she stays upbeat
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| significant when that word appears, so
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| | and positive, ask her if she would like
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| focus on the activity and position it in
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| | to go hiking with you next weekend.
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| the same informal way you would ask a
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| | - Keep it casual. If you feel
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| friend.
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| | uncomfortable saying, "Would you like to
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| Keep the invitation light and casual. A
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| | go to dinner Friday night?" try something
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| lunch date is low pressure - it has a
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| | like this:
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| beginning and an end, and both occur
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| | "I was thinking about going for a ride
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| within an hour or so. It's easy to say
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| | along the boardwalk on Sunday. It's going
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| goodbye, there's no goodnight kiss, no
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| | to be a beautiful day. Would you like to
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| obligation, and so the pressure is off.
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| | go with me?" Pose the question as if
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| Here's What Not to Say
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| | you're already going and they can join
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| - Don't ask, "You want to go out
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| | you, if interested. This will make you
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| sometime?" It's too open-ended and can
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| | feel less desperate and take the pressure
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| lead to an awkward follow-up
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| | off them if they say no.
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| conversation.
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| | - Be specific when asking for the date.
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| - Don't ask, "What are you doing Friday
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| | "I'd like to take you for coffee this
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| night?" It's too vague and it might leave
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| | Thursday" is more powerful than asking if
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| your potential date wondering if you're
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| | she'd like to "go out sometime." Of
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| just curious about what he or she is
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| | course, you could always invite the
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| doing on Friday night, or if you want to
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| | person on a group date, since that really
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| do something together.
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| | takes the pressure off.
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| - Don't use a sexually suggestive line
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| | Invite them bowling, to play volleyball,
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| like, "I'd love to have breakfast with
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| | or to join a bunch of friends for a drink
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| you. Should I call you or nudge you?" It
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| | or to a party. As soon as you say, "A
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| might be funny if you read it in a book,
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| | bunch of us are going to..." it takes the
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| but in the real world, it's liable to get
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| | pressure off. "Us" is the operative word
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| you a speedy rejection.
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| | here.
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| These types of lines don't show that
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| | Read the situation. If you've hung out
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| you're genuinely interested in a person -
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| | for a while and all the signs suggest
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| they make you seem a little too slick.
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| | your potential date shares your feelings,
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| What Works Best?
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| | then either a) you won't be able to keep
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| Before you ask, consider the following:
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| | your hands off each other, or b) you'll
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| - Be a friend first, not a potential
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| | be able to suggest meeting up for an
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| date. If you really want to get to know
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| | evening out knowing that's what they want
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| someone better, the key is to relax and
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| | too! If that vibe isn't happening, at the
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| allow your own personality to shine
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| | very least you'll have made a new friend.
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| through. There really is no need to be a
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| | So remember, when you are asking someone
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| smart-ass, or make them laugh out loud.
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| | out, plan ahead and be specific. Know
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| You just need to be good company, because
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| | what you are going to say AND what you
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| the more comfortable you both feel, the
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| | want to suggest doing on the date. Your
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| easier it is to recognize any chemistry
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| | prospective dates will be much more
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| between you. In short, forget the pickup
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| | comfortable if they know exactly what you
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| lines. Show an interest in them, and they
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| | want to do. Just try to relax and enjoy
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| will only be flattered.
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| | yourself. Worst case scenario- they'll
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| - Create an opportunity for your date.
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| | say they can't go out. And that will
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| Once you know more about what that person
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| | bring you one step closer to someone who
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| likes to do, you can offer something.
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| | can. Someone who appreciates you and
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| After all, a date is an invitation. If
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| | where the chemistry connection is
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| they love art, ask them to the latest big
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| | reciprocated and the sparks really fly.
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| museum exhibition; if they like sports,
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| | Let's face it, getting to that special
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| offer tickets to a basketball game. If
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| | someone inevitably means dealing with a
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| they enjoy wine, ask them to a wine
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| | few duds along the way. It'll be worth it
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| tasting.
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| | in the end.
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